Comments on: No Problem http://totallyadd.com/no-problem/ A complete guide to ADD, ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) in adulthood and the documentary ADD & Loving It?! Sat, 04 Feb 2012 14:15:01 -0500 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: bige1030 http://totallyadd.com/no-problem/#comment-1334 bige1030 Thu, 07 Jul 2011 04:48:35 +0000 http://totallyadd.com/?p=1140#comment-1334 The "no problem" vs. "you're welcome" debate is interesting, yet if I go to Mexico and want to respond to "gracias" I say "de nada" (it was nothing). There's no good common way in the Spanish language to say "you're welcome" in response to "thank you". Perhaps this is unique to the English language? The “no problem” vs. “you’re welcome” debate is interesting, yet if I go to Mexico and want to respond to “gracias” I say “de nada” (it was nothing). There’s no good common way in the Spanish language to say “you’re welcome” in response to “thank you”. Perhaps this is unique to the English language?

]]> By: terican http://totallyadd.com/no-problem/#comment-1269 terican Sun, 12 Jun 2011 00:50:11 +0000 http://totallyadd.com/?p=1140#comment-1269 I might be one of the only people left that hasn't seen UP although everytime someone tells me about it I am reminded to rent it. Hang on I will put it in my movie list which I now carry around in my 'smarter than me' phone. One step closer to actually getting it out to view! I like being around kind and polite people. To be polite one must be actually aware of what is going on with others and that means being more present which can be a challenge for me so when I spend time with polite people it is a cue for me to be more present too and then I am more polite, which means that the whole social interaction is more positive. Politie people bring out the best in me. I might be one of the only people left that hasn’t seen UP although everytime someone tells me about it I am reminded to rent it. Hang on I will put it in my movie list which I now carry around in my ‘smarter than me’ phone. One step closer to actually getting it out to view! I like being around kind and polite people. To be polite one must be actually aware of what is going on with others and that means being more present which can be a challenge for me so when I spend time with polite people it is a cue for me to be more present too and then I am more polite, which means that the whole social interaction is more positive. Politie people bring out the best in me.

]]> By: BlackADDer http://totallyadd.com/no-problem/#comment-251 BlackADDer Tue, 15 Jun 2010 14:08:54 +0000 http://totallyadd.com/?p=1140#comment-251 I agree with the manners thing. x I agree with the manners thing. x

]]> By: Megatron http://totallyadd.com/no-problem/#comment-203 Megatron Mon, 10 May 2010 23:59:09 +0000 http://totallyadd.com/?p=1140#comment-203 Aside from any influence from "Parker Lewis Can't Lose", I've always viewed it as a Canadian thing. We're SO polite, we don't like to impose on people to have them help us. When someone says "Thank you." and you say "Not a problem.", what you're saying is "It wasn't an imposition- I was glad to help." You're assuring the person that you were not, in fact, inconvenienced by their request. Like: "No really, it didn't trouble me." "Are you sure? I'm so grateful." "Seriously, it wasn't a problem." "I owe you one." "No, really, it was no trouble." "Here, have ten bucks." "STOP IT. IT WAS OUT OF THE GOODNESS OF MY HEART, DAMMIT!" "I MUST REPAY YOU OR I WILL WILT IN SHAME." Okay, maybe not like that. But close. Aside from any influence from “Parker Lewis Can’t Lose”, I’ve always viewed it as a Canadian thing.

We’re SO polite, we don’t like to impose on people to have them help us. When someone says “Thank you.” and you say “Not a problem.”, what you’re saying is “It wasn’t an imposition- I was glad to help.” You’re assuring the person that you were not, in fact, inconvenienced by their request.

Like:
“No really, it didn’t trouble me.”
“Are you sure? I’m so grateful.”
“Seriously, it wasn’t a problem.”
“I owe you one.”
“No, really, it was no trouble.”
“Here, have ten bucks.”
“STOP IT. IT WAS OUT OF THE GOODNESS OF MY HEART, DAMMIT!”
“I MUST REPAY YOU OR I WILL WILT IN SHAME.”

Okay, maybe not like that. But close.

]]> By: DrTim http://totallyadd.com/no-problem/#comment-116 DrTim Wed, 17 Mar 2010 13:35:43 +0000 http://totallyadd.com/?p=1140#comment-116 You've made some good points and, of course, I agree with them. Replying "no problem" really does imply that the request might have been unwelcome had it been "a problem". Should you ask difficult things of your friends sometimes? Yes, that's what friends do and those who are asked, do what they are asked, within reason of course, with generosity. It's a gift and as a friend you are happy to reciprocate when needed. NP turns this around in a passive aggressive way and definitely implies that difficult requests should not be made. The other points about giving and accepting speak very strongly to me. I was very much a social outcast as a child. I learned that to be emotionally safe it was best to hide inside myself because otherwise I would either be taken advantage of when I gave or gifts to me would have strings. These emotional lessons are hard to overcome and, in spite of having wonderful friends who have given me more than I can ever give back, it is still hard to trust. That being said, I have made a lot of progress and life is much better because of it. You’ve made some good points and, of course, I agree with them.

Replying “no problem” really does imply that the request might have been unwelcome had it been “a problem”. Should you ask difficult things of your friends sometimes? Yes, that’s what friends do and those who are asked, do what they are asked, within reason of course, with generosity. It’s a gift and as a friend you are happy to reciprocate when needed. NP turns this around in a passive aggressive way and definitely implies that difficult requests should not be made.

The other points about giving and accepting speak very strongly to me. I was very much a social outcast as a child. I learned that to be emotionally safe it was best to hide inside myself because otherwise I would either be taken advantage of when I gave or gifts to me would have strings. These emotional lessons are hard to overcome and, in spite of having wonderful friends who have given me more than I can ever give back, it is still hard to trust. That being said, I have made a lot of progress and life is much better because of it.

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